OK here is the situation My SO (male) is younger than me. He has remained friends with most of his ex's - as have I. A while back, one of his friends/ex's had a falling out and didn't speak much. Recently, they came to an agreement and suddenly started communicating a lot more. Coincidentally this is right around the same time as our relationship started going sour. We live togther BTW. He came home wearing a necklace thing that she supposedly made then gave to him although when Iasked his first reply was "Oh XXX made it for me" and when I raised an eyebrow, then the story was altered to how it had already been made and no one else wanted it. He refuses to take it off even thoughhe knows how much it bothers me. Also, we got into a rather serious fight a couple weekends ago and he ended up spending the weekend at her house. I found this out after a serious event happened earlier this week. Based on some texts I read, I think he's telling her things to make her feel better without realizing that she is taking them the completely wrong way ... or maybe he does mean what hes telling her and is BS'ing me. Either way, the mention of this womans name makes my skin crawl and my stomach clench...she knows he is in this relationship with me BTW. I told him that I don't mind them being friends as long as its not "hanging out" every weekend type of thing and as long as he makes it crystal clear that all he wants is friendship..I was then told that he will be friends and hang out with whoever he wants whenever he wants, that they've been friends for a good number of years, etc etc. I have male friends from that far back too but I would never disrespect my guy or our relationship with this kind of behaviour. I just dont know what to think anymore.

wow TLDR next.

here is the situation I CAN'T FIND ANY FUCKING PARAGRAPHS

if you feel disrespected and not listened to this relationship is only going downhill. I would consider jumping ship.

I have tried several times and he always gets better. Its almost like being with an abuser but without the physical violence. He thinks I'm just jealous because this owman has been in his life for so long but honestly, they JUST started talking again like 2 months ago after almost 3 years of barely speaking.

maybe you are jealous. that's not the issue. if he's not there for you, giving you his best, inspiring the best in you, where is he? why isn't he? is that worth it to you? do your feelings and concerns not deserve to be considered?

But his cock is magical

I didn't finish reading it cuz I knew half way that you need to leave him...its hard but he has no respect or love for you and if you stay you wil be subject to this over and over again. sorry thats my advice.